A guide to how I prefer no pronouns being used

Having trouble speaking about me? Well you’re in luck. I have a handy-dandy guide right here on how I’d prefer being referred to!(First section has a TL;DR)

Lesson 1.) Why do I not use pronouns?

Well, it’s a little complicated. I’ve struggled figuring out what pronouns I’d like to use for a long time. Nothing has ever worked. I’m AFAB (Assigned Female At Birth) so everyone I know in real life knows me by She/Her. Ever since I learned about the LGBTQIA+ community and the fact that people can change their gender from the one assigned to them at birth, I’ve realized that being called She/Her feels a little weird. Like it’s not right. I always stuck with it though since personally, change is tough. I’m used to what I’m used to, even if it doesn’t feel exactly right. But online I started trying out He/Him pronouns. It still felt a little off, so I decided to start using They/Them. It felt a bit better. I eventually learned about the option of using no pronouns, and at the time it made no sense to me. I mean, why would people not want pronouns? They’re so much easier to have. Well, the reason that people sometimes don’t use pronouns is because most (if not all) pronouns don’t really scratch that itch for the person. I eventually came to realize that pronouns not scratching that itch really applied to me. So now I’m just ditching pronouns altogether, with a few situational exceptions though.TL;DR most pronouns dont really feel like me so i dont use them on most occasions

Lesson 2.) How do I refer to you if you don’t use pronouns?

Well, here’s the basics:Try to only refer to me by name. I have a few names that I go by, so if saying or hearing only one name gets tiring, switch it up a little!
I go by Two names: Major and Phoenix. If I give you permission, you can also call me Phoe. It’s more of a nickname than an actual name, and I reserve it for people I either am friends with, or people that I respect/admire.

Here’s some examples for how to refer to me in certain situations!“Have you seen Major at all today?”
“No, Major had to stay home. Major told me that there were things going on at home that Phoenix had to attend to.”“Major got left behind again.”
“Really? Why?”
“Major just wasn’t feeling it again so Phoenix kinda just sat down and rested.”
“Should we go back for Major?”
“Nah, Major will catch up. We just have to wait for Phoenix to feel better.”“I heard Phoenix got a new dog.”
“Yeah! I’m going to Major house tomorrow so I can meet Phoe’s dog. I don’t know the dog’s name yet though.”
“Remember to tell me all about it when you get back. I’ve never been to Phoenix’s house before. I guess I just have to become better friends with Major.”
“Yeah, you aren’t very close with Phoe yet, are you?”
“Nah, I’ve only talked to Major twice. I really like Major though. I wish we talked more.”

Lesson 3.) What are the exceptions mentioned earlier?

Well, if you find it necessary, you can refer to me as They/Them. If you’re still unsure about using no pronouns for me then use those pronouns. If you find it necessary to say something like ____self, use themself instead. Workarounds exist for saying that, but if you can’t come up with any then themself is fine.
If you want to refer to me anonymously (without using my name) then use They/Them instead!Use gender-neutral terms for me
[EX: sibling instead of brother/sister]
But nothing like Mx.
I don’t really like that :/ Avoid Honorifics altogether unless it’s something profession-based. No Mrs, no Mr, no Mx, nothing. No thank you :[

Bonus Box!!

Many other people prefer no pronouns, so you can use this guide to help you with how to refer to those people as well! Keep in mind though, some people may have other preferences to how this works, so please ask about how the person wants to be referred to before you just go ahead and use my preferences. Some people are strictly no They/Them, others are more lenient. Some might have no pronouns as an option along with a few sets of pronouns as well. The most respectful way to refer to someone changes per person, so always make sure you know what someone wants to be called. People can take serious offense to someone using the wrong pronouns so always try to ask if you aren’t sure.
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